Tuesday, November 24, 2009

twenty-three and getting a divorce

On August 8th, 2009..I stood before my family and friends and J's family and friends and told all those people that I would love, and be faithful, and take care of him through sickness and health, richer or poorer, til death do us part. J said the same things; he didn't uphold his end of the bargain.

On November 22, 2009..I found out that my husband had, had an affair and that he was going to be moving outand that he was hanging out with a girl..not the girl that he had slept with in the very first place. I have since asked him to move out, and I am filing for a divorce. I do not hate J. I do not wish bad things to happen to him. I don't really wish anything for him, not a long life, not children, not anything.

I am twenty-three years old. I am beautiful. I am strong. I have an amazing job, that I love. And a family that supports me in more ways than I could ever realise. I am going to get through this. And I will not let him bring me down anymore. I know that I am not the problem. I know that I did not do this, and that he has made his own decisions that have affected our lives as husband and wife. I will not dwell on the past or the fact that I am devastated. I will go to the counselor and I will grow from the experience. And I will hope and pray that one day I will find a man that will love me, for me, and not for someone that I am supposed to be.

I really need to be happy for myself.


  1. Shelby, I lurk on the Nest and I saw your post. I'm truly sorry for what you're going through. I wanted to let you know I went through this myself when I was 25 years old. I'm now 32 and happily remarried.
    This will make you stronger. You are hard working and beautiful, don't ever forget that.

  2. What a punk. You totally deserve better than that! Everyone does. I am sorry for what you are going through. I can just tell that you have the strength to perservere. Good luck to you!! *hugs*

  3. What a twat. I'm so sorry that he was such an arse to you. I wish much misfortune on him.

    You WILL grow from the experience, just keep remembering. Stay strong.


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